If I said the way you think and feel about yourself can either help you see the possibilities and choices you have, giving you a sense of direction and control in life, or actually by restricting your ability to see the options you have leaving you struggling to find a way to hold on to your autonomy.
If someone feels helpless to change their situation or circumstances they can become stagnant unable to see a way out, or find any motivation to attempt to change their life, increasing the risk of developing mental health problems like depression.
It is not just about your self-confidence, that’s just an easy way to explain the complex inner relationship between our self-esteem and our ability to interact with the outer world. So all we have to do is think and feel differently and everything is going to be much better? Well yes, and no, your ability to change how you feel by challenging your old ways of thinking can be a difficult transition for most people and this can take time to achieve.
A good way to think about this is looking at why some people who want to say no just can’t, forever trapped in a cycle of saying yes to others when they need to say no, always doing what others want and unable to stand up for themselves, its as if they can only see one possible option.
What stops people from protecting their own independence by saying the word no more often is about the way they think and feel about themselves, if someone has issues around their self-worth they find it harder to say no to someone they see as being worthier than them.
So, if you can change the way you feel about yourself by challenging your thinking and increasing your self-worth, in time you will automatically feel more able to stand up to the people who you now see as equals and as equals they become less threatening and saying no when you need to more often is not wrong.
People can be affected by all kinds of experiences in life such as experiencing verbal physical or sexual abuse, being bullied and even from becoming unemployed, there are many more experiences in life that can lead to people developing poor levels of self-worth or even the more extreme version, self-hate.
You do not have to suffer in silence, this online therapy service can and does help people challenge and change their own ways of thinking and in turn change how they feel about themselves. But I also understand that this can be difficult to achieve and everyone has to be ready to make the necessary adjustments in their own time, it is of real importance that therapy empowers people to make changes and never forces them in to taking steps they are not ready to take, that just sets people up to fail, and that can make it even harder to find progress.
What changes do you need to make in life?