lose weight effectively


How you can lose weight effectively.

Why you eat can be more important that what you eat

Many people struggle with the constant battle with their weight, trying to lose weight effectively and reduce body mass and feel fitter and enjoy more energy  is a goal many cannot seem to realise, but there is often an unseen unknown reason why they fail.

Have you ever kept a food diary?

When people write down everything they eat it can be surprising and often some find it very scary to do, in fact some find it very emotionally uncomfortable to do, but it can help you to lose weight effectively

Bad memory or emotional convenience

Most people do not remember everything they eat over a period of time, and you can argue that our memories can conveniently forget what make us uncomfortable.

People who are asked how many cigarettes they smoke will usually lie and give a lower figure rather than face the reality or embarrassment they feel, and it is sometimes the same with food.

People will complain that they can’t seem to lose weight even when they are on a diet secretly knowing they do eat to much, do you know someone like that?

Finding it hard to lose weight?

Recording everything you eat for 14 days can help you understand your eating habits, you must be honest with yourself for it to work, yes it can be scary to do, but remember that the information is not used to punish yourself, but to help you understand what is going on.

If the mountain is too steep to climb, try going around

If you can’t do it, then you may need to rethink your next move to lose weight effectively,  or stay as you are, the choice is yours.

When we eat and why we eat is a complex area and using therapy to help identify the emotional food triggers can help people to renegotiate their thinking and change the emotional responses around food, I won’t lie, it can be difficult to do, but it is possible to find success as many of my clients have.

One common emotional problem stopping people having a healthy relationship with food is low self-esteem and sometimes learned behaviour also plays its part, did your parents always give you sweets or other food to stop you from crying if you were hurt or upset, or to give you something to eat so you stopped annoying them?

Having therapy can sometimes lead to some surprising discoveries and even change peoples lives, are you worth investing in?

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Need support with a relationship brake up or divorce

Going through a relationship brake up or trying to struggle with a divorce?
It can feel like the end of your world, the emotions involved can be overwhelming and feel impossible to handle, everything from anger and rage to despair rejection and embarrassment, all valid emotions people feel in such hurtful life changing experiences.

Friends and family are an important support network usually offering love care and concern, I say usually because unfortunately some people do not have supportive family’s, sad but true.

In such time being on your own can be a good thing, allowing some time away to heal can be very helpful, shutting the door and having a good cry is what many people do, a bit of me time to feel sad in a safe place is often very helpful now and then.

Some times people going through such traumatic life changes can feel isolated or don’t want to overburden their friends to much so keep some distance, this can leave people to feel lonely and isolated, not a good place to be in such painful times.

Healing takes time, and how fast you will heal will depend on the feelings and emotions involved, the way it ended and the situation that is left for you to cope with, there may be children to consider or there may have to be ongoing contact for other reasons.

This is where online therapy can be very helpful, you can talk in confidence without feeling you are overburdening anyone, express your feelings and thoughts in a safe space, I know talking does help

Hypnotherapy live online?

I got an e-mail asking why I do not provide hypnotherapy over skype?

To be honest I have tried it, I had some volunteers and did a few sessions of hypnosis over skype a few years ago.

It was in general a problematic experience for both me and the client.

A very important consideration was the inability to control the clients environment, instances of people visiting delivering parcels or phone calls could disrupt the session and not forgetting the quality of the client’s equipment, good quality head phones and a comfortable chair seemed to affect the ability to induce a trance state or deep relaxation, as most people at the time seemed to spend the minimum required on a headset and chair.

Also problems with back ground programs like antivirus programs starting up and disrupting the service due to no keyboard or mouse clicks from the client could also be a problem after some time of no interaction.

So yes it does work but as far as charging a fee for hypnosis delivered over the internet live, I can’t provide it as an online service as yet, not without the possibility of upsetting clients and possibly giving them a unsatisfactory experience.

I’M not saying it won’t happen and there are therapists providing that service right now, but at this time for me it’s not an option I feel comfortable doing for the foreseeable future.

Can you change who you are by using online therapy?

Who are you, find out with online therapy
I am?

If I said the way you think and feel about yourself can either help you see the possibilities and choices you have, giving you a sense of direction and control in life, or actually by restricting your ability to see the options you have leaving you struggling to find a way to hold on to your autonomy.

If someone feels helpless to change their situation or circumstances they can become stagnant unable to see a way out, or find any motivation to attempt to change their life, increasing the risk of developing mental health problems like depression.

It is not just about your self-confidence, that’s just an easy way to explain the complex inner relationship between our self-esteem and our ability to interact with the outer world. So all we have to do is think and feel differently and everything is going to be much better? Well yes, and no, your ability to change how you feel by challenging your old ways of thinking can be a difficult transition for most people and this can take time to achieve.

Online therapy can help you say no when you need to
Saying no to others is often about saying yes to yourself

A good way to think about this is looking at why some people who want to say no just can’t, forever trapped in a cycle of saying yes to others when they need to say no, always doing what others want and unable to stand up for themselves, its as if they can only see one possible option.

What stops people from protecting their own independence by saying the word no more often is about the way they think and feel about themselves, if someone has issues around their self-worth they find it harder to say no to someone they see as being worthier than them.

So, if you can change the way you feel about yourself by challenging your thinking and increasing your self-worth, in time you will automatically feel more able to stand up to the people who you now see as equals and as equals they become less threatening and saying no when you need to more often is not wrong.

People can be affected by all kinds of experiences in life such as experiencing verbal physical or sexual abuse, being bullied and even from becoming unemployed, there are many more experiences in life that can lead to people developing poor levels of self-worth or even the more extreme version, self-hate.

You do not have to suffer in silence, this online therapy service can and does help people challenge and change their own ways of thinking and in turn change how they feel about themselves. But I also understand that this can be difficult to achieve and everyone has to be ready to make the necessary adjustments in their own time, it is of real importance that therapy empowers people to make changes and never forces them in to taking steps they are not ready to take, that just sets people up to fail, and that can make it even harder to find progress.

What changes do you need to make in life?