Wondering what to do?
Stressing about her him or you?
Relationship problems are often challenging to deal with because of the simple fact that relationships are complex, especially when two people are trying to live in harmony but have different ideas of what harmony is.
It does not matter if you are gay, straight or bisexual; a relationship is about people, not about your sexuality.
Hidden agendas and issues around control, trust and commitment issues can complicate any marriage or relationship. Sexual problems can leave one partner feeling embarrassed and isolated, leaving the other person feeling unloved or rejected.
By talking to a therapist, you can explore the emotional content centred on your ability to communicate effectively, your emotional needs to others.
When starting marriage guidance or seeking independent relationship assistance, one essential consideration is that you do not need to bring a partner into therapy.
When seeking help with your marriage or relationship, you can have therapy sessions for relationship problems independently without your partner.
People do find this way of actioning relationship issues very helpful, especially when it is about, should I end the relationship, or try saving it, for its about questioning the actions of their partner within the relationship, is it abusive or controlling, is a common question people seek to ask.
With relationship counselling over the Internet, you can explore the complexity of your unmet emotional needs and personal experiences, to allow a clearer picture of who you are and what you really need from a relationship, find a new clearer understanding of how to help yourself, or even find a new way forward. There can be quite a difference between what you think you want and what you actually need from a relationship.
As social beings, we need others’ company to fulfil our needs, both emotionally and physically. We need the support that friendships and family provide us to help in times of hardship and emotional support.
Some of the most important relationships that we experience in our childhood, the emotional support that is given or withheld, can shape the way we attach to others in the future, our childhood can set in place the building blocks for our future relationships.
As children, we are nurtured within a family, and it should provide us with a safe environment to explore our world and help us grow emotionally in time. We ourselves provide support for others as we grow. Still, for some, this is an ideal that they never fully experience, perhaps from physical, sexual abuse or psychological abuse or other trauma.
A person’s emotional growth when exposed to abuse or trauma can become emotionally stunted, leading to all kinds of anxiety and anger issues developing from their insecurities, in time damaging any future relationship.
Being abused can have several effects in later life, from unconsciously (not knowingly) looking for and finding abusive relationships or pushing people away and isolating themselves.
Not all people need to have suffered such tragic abuse, find relationships a problem, seemingly simple behaviours can destroy a relationship from within, feelings of insecurity, or low self-esteem, can lead to a person feeling the need to constantly test the relationship, either with constant demands for physical needs, like sex, or being constantly emotionally clingy or demanding lots of affection, and attention, there may be jealousy lead unfounded accusations and outbursts of anger.
Not many people actually communicate at a level that makes a relationship work, how many times have you felt hurt by a partners actions, or words, but have never said so, you just ignored or buried it away, or left it simmering, until it builds up into a major explosion of anger or frustration.
Communication leads to better relationships, and online counselling is worth trying before it gets out of hand. Better communication usually leads to better relationships.
When in therapy you can explore the issues surrounding your life in a safe and confidential environment, that will allow you the freedom to test new ways of thinking and feeling.
Understanding of anger and frustration, and what it means for you.
End confusion and uncertainty.
Work on self-esteem issues and confidence issues to improve the quality of your life.
Find new ways to get what you need emotionally that may also improve the physical side of your life.
Working with issues such as anger you can learn how to understand and use emotions constructively and become more self-assertive without being aggressive.