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Online psychotherapist

Common Questions

Why do people need therapy?

Lots of people find that therapy provides them with a good and effective means of recovery from all types of emotional problems, including stress and anxiety, low self-esteem and confidence issues, In fact, a lot of people suffering from a wide range of psychological difficulties find the help and support they need with therapy. To realize its benefits, you need to find a therapist that makes you feel cared for and respected as a person in your own right, A therapist who is able to create a safe therapeutic environment that is supportive and non-judgemental to help you as you endeavor to work through your problems. A well-tuned therapist can help you make changes to your life at a pace that suits you. A good therapist will never tell you how to live your life; they will only act as a catalyst helping you to change what you want or need to change. No therapist can do all the work for you, to benefit from the therapy you must be an active participant and take responsibility for making any changes you want to make. Why some peoples therapy is very successful and others only find limited success or experience no change is dependent on a lot of complex factors and personal subtleties.

How can therapy help me?

People sharing their thoughts and feelings with a person who is compassionate respectful and understanding can experience deep emotional healing, the old saying a problem shared is a problem halved is very accurate within the right environment. Therapy can be a safe place to express your inner worries by allowing yourself the time to talk to someone about a distressing problem or experience and keep it entirely confidential. Sometimes we need to talk to someone who is neither friend nor family, someone who is independent and unbiased who is trained to listen and be objective. Therapy can help people become aware of and then change problem behaviors, and maladaptive thinking or the therapist can just help you to build an awareness of what is really going on before helping you get to the origin of your problems, maybe they need to challenge your perceptions and beliefs, to promote positive changes in your life. Most people who are in therapy are looking for help and support with everyday concerns: Dealing with relationship problems and work stresses and sexual issues for example. Others turn to therapy after finding themselves in difficult times, experiencing a divorce or coming to terms with someone's death or terminal illness.

How long do you need to stay in therapy?

The number of therapy sessions needed will be dependant on a number of conditions, firstly how complex are the issues involved and what does the client want to achieve. A seemingly simple problem to the client set around becoming more confident, could lead to the therapy uncovering major issues with self-worth and low self-esteem, stemming from being bullied at school or child abuse, a much more complex problem emerges that will need more time. So, it is almost impossible to discover how many sessions you will need from the first consultation. A good way to measure this is to reassess the therapy every four sessions or so and ask, Have I made any progress? Do I need more healing? What do I want to do now?

How long will it take to feel any benefit

from therapy?

How long you will take to feel any benefit from having therapy online will depend on your expectations and ability to change. Many people feel that the first online counselling or psychotherapy session has made a difference in how they feel, some feel emotionally lighter and better-off, and others can feel emotionally tired but less confused. The experience is always going to be unique to the person, it will also vary considerably from person to person, but I usually find that the outcome is typically positive and constructive and well received.

I need to feel better quickly, will a couple

of sessions sort me out?

A client’s expectations can have a significant impact on progress, someone who has very little self-compassion and has unrealistic expectations can set themselves up to fail. Expecting to much progress in a short time frame can make any progress seem impossible, even if there has been a positive change. This is where the therapist can help support the client by challenging their expectations. Sometimes a lot of fast beneficial changes can have its own set of problems, it can take time to adapt to the new way of being, becoming more confident will often bring more experiences and opportunities, that can mean more social contact, and that can be a bit unnerving at first until they get used to it.

What kind of therapy is best for me?

What particular style of therapy should you use? What type of counselling is the best one? What kind of therapeutic approach is best for your problem? Should I have counselling or psychotherapy? There is a vast range of different varieties of psychological interventions in use today as well as many styles and concepts surrounding different theories, it just adds to the complicated and confusing mix available. Some therapists insist that the method they use is better than any other, but the truth is that any particular type of therapy is nothing more than a way of working, and one way is much the same as another in that they aim to achieve the same result. What type of therapy is going to be the best choice for you will be dependant on what you think is the best choice, how effective your chosen method is will depend on your ability to make the changes required. Another important consideration is the strength of the therapeutic relationship as well as the therapist's expertise. The relationship between client and therapist will often be essential towards experiencing a positive outcome in therapy, and it is often more important than what type of therapeutic approach is used. If you have a type of therapy in mind start by researching it and find out as much as you possibly can, you then have a better idea if it is what you want to try.

Some common thoughts

How do I get past this? I need to find some answers? How do I cope with this? Things needs to change? Why do I feel worthless right now? I need to talk but find it hard to open up? Can therapy sort out my head? I need to find a new me can therapy help me?

Is therapy any better than medication?

We live in a world of a quick fix expectation, we are raised to expect that whatever your problem is you can find a pill for this or that, or we find a way that seems to work at the moment, but if continued could lead to more significant problems for you to deal with in the future. when people start drinking alcohol or take drugs to cope with feelings of stress and anxiety, they can find that it does seem to work, in the short term, but in time it often leads on to more severe life-changing, social and economic complications, and acute health problems. Antidepressants are often used to reduce the effects of short term emotional or other psychological problems, and they can have an important role to play in someone's recovery, but they should not be used as a permanent treatment unless you have a major mental illness like bipolar or schizophrenia and your Doctor will advise you in such cases. Pills have their benefits and some problems related to side effects and the long term cost of treatment, for some people prescribed medication did not have any positive or noticeable psychological outcome, but it has also helped others to live a normal life. Always seek medical advice from your Doctor before stopping or changing your medication. The long term use of prescribed drugs used in mental health can in some cases lead to addiction, or it even makes the original symptoms worse, including elevated anxiety levels or weight gain. Medication if it does work, quite often only hides or smooths over the real problem. It can help the person cope or reduce the symptoms but does not generally help to solve the underlying issue; this can mean that the problem will return in week’s months or years from now or the person will need to take more and more pills leading to a lifelong prescription.

Common Questions

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Common Issues

Common Issues

These are just a small sample of the complex issues I work with. I do not normally deal with psychosis so I generally cannot help people with schizophrenia or bipolar disorder unless I am working in conjunction with a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist, I do work with people who have bipolar disorder in some circumstances if they have been stable for at least a year. Abuse People suffer from all kinds of abuse including rape and other sexual physical and psychological experiences. Unfortunately this is a common problem that many people face in life and struggle to deal with the after-effects. Anxiety Anxiety issues can be a complex and long term life limiting condition that often has added complications such as low self- esteem. Bereavement Grief is something that everyone will have to deal with in life at some point, it is obviously a difficult emotional experience that can have future complications. Depression Depression is a problem that can often respond to therapeutic intervention. Many people will suffer from depression at sometime in their life. Divorce The end of a relationship is obviously a major life changing event that can leave people struggling to cope with all kinds of practical and emotional situations. Eating disorders A difficult and often long term issue that is expressed through their relationship with food but is actually just a symptom of a deeper issue. Low self-esteem Many people struggle to reach their full potential in life due to feelings of inadequacy about themselves and that can limit their life choices and lower the ability to be self assertive. Relationships Relationships are complex and there is guaranteed to be conflicts, disputes, and some communication problems. Stress How you deal with stress will determine how you cope with life, many people feel as if they are drowning under the constant pressure from work family and other expectations, but it can often become more manageable with a few adjustments to their way of thinking. Sex & sexuality Sex and sexuality is a deeply complex subject that people can find confusing hurtful shameful and embarrassing to talk about. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD is often identified as an after effect of an experience, Symptoms can be difficult to deal with and even become self destructive in some cases.
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Alternative to drugs

Therapy can provide a safer alternative treatment from drugs for most emotional problems as well as an excellent supplemental option to help the person recover while they use the medication. With counselling, either face to face or using an online therapy service, it can be possible to identify the root causes of the symptoms and find a long term solution or reduce the medication safely Therapy can sometimes be a problematic and complicated road, and it will in some cases need a high level of commitment and perseverance for it to work. The amount of difficulty will depend on the problem involved, medication can be an attractive option needing no real responsibility other than remembering to take it, but it does not always stop the problem, it usually only makes it bearable. Unfortunately, therapy is not always successful, and no therapist can promise a positive outcome, most of the responsibility for any therapy being successful rests on the ability of the client to make the necessary changes needed. If the client cannot or does not want to change, no therapist is going to be able to help. With therapy, you may with the help of the therapist find the tools for transforming your life for the better, and eventually, go on to build the future life you want for yourself and your loved ones, and through change become mentally and emotionally healthier and more able to cope with what life sends your way.

Wellness from within

Never underestimate how doing something you enjoy can change how you feel, people who have hobbies or are interested in a subject often feel happier and more content than someone who has no interests. What are you interested in? What past hobbies have you once had in life and perhaps restart? What books did you once enjoy reading? What interests you in your local area, can you volunteer for a project or charity?
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Common Questions

Why do people need therapy?

Lots of people find that therapy provides them with a good and effective means of recovery from all types of emotional problems, including stress and anxiety, low self-esteem and confidence issues, In fact, a lot of people suffering from a wide range of psychological difficulties find the help and support they need with therapy. To realize its benefits, you need to find a therapist that makes you feel cared for and respected as a person in your own right, A therapist who is able to create a safe therapeutic environment that is supportive and non-judgemental to help you as you endeavor to work through your problems. A well-tuned therapist can help you make changes to your life at a pace that suits you. A good therapist will never tell you how to live your life; they will only act as a catalyst helping you to change what you want or need to change. No therapist can do all the work for you, to benefit from the therapy you must be an active participant and take responsibility for making any changes you want to make. Why some peoples therapy is very successful and others only find limited success or experience no change is dependent on a lot of complex factors and personal subtleties.

How can therapy help me?

People sharing their thoughts and feelings with a person who is compassionate respectful and understanding can experience deep emotional healing, the old saying a problem shared is a problem halved is very accurate within the right environment. Therapy can be a safe place to express your inner worries by allowing yourself the time to talk to someone about a distressing problem or experience and keep it entirely confidential. Sometimes we need to talk to someone who is neither friend nor family, someone who is independent and unbiased who is trained to listen and be objective. Therapy can help people become aware of and then change problem behaviors, and maladaptive thinking or the therapist can just help you to build an awareness of what is really going on before helping you get to the origin of your problems, maybe they need to challenge your perceptions and beliefs, to promote positive changes in your life. Most people who are in therapy are looking for help and support with everyday concerns: Dealing with relationship problems and work stresses and sexual issues for example. Others turn to therapy after finding themselves in difficult times, experiencing a divorce or coming to terms with someone's death or terminal illness.

How long do you need to stay in

therapy?

The number of therapy sessions needed will be dependant on a number of conditions, firstly how complex are the issues involved and what does the client want to achieve. A seemingly simple problem to the client set around becoming more confident, could lead to the therapy uncovering major issues with self- worth and low self-esteem, stemming from being bullied at school or child abuse, a much more complex problem emerges that will need more time. So, it is almost impossible to discover how many sessions you will need from the first consultation. A good way to measure this is to reassess the therapy every four sessions or so and ask, Have I made any progress? Do I need more healing? What do I want to do now?

How long will it take to feel any

benefit from therapy?

How long you will take to feel any benefit from having therapy online will depend on your expectations and ability to change. Many people feel that the first online counselling or psychotherapy session has made a difference in how they feel, some feel emotionally lighter and better-off, and others can feel emotionally tired but less confused. The experience is always going to be unique to the person, it will also vary considerably from person to person, but I usually find that the outcome is typically positive and constructive and well received.

I need to feel better quickly, will a

couple of sessions sort me out?

A client’s expectations can have a significant impact on progress, someone who has very little self-compassion and has unrealistic expectations can set themselves up to fail. Expecting to much progress in a short time frame can make any progress seem impossible, even if there has been a positive change. This is where the therapist can help support the client by challenging their expectations. Sometimes a lot of fast beneficial changes can have its own set of problems, it can take time to adapt to the new way of being, becoming more confident will often bring more experiences and opportunities, that can mean more social contact, and that can be a bit unnerving at first until they get used to it.

What kind of therapy is best for me?

What particular style of therapy should you use? What type of counselling is the best one? What kind of therapeutic approach is best for your problem? Should I have counselling or psychotherapy? There is a vast range of different varieties of psychological interventions in use today as well as many styles and concepts surrounding different theories, it just adds to the complicated and confusing mix available. Some therapists insist that the method they use is better than any other, but the truth is that any particular type of therapy is nothing more than a way of working, and one way is much the same as another in that they aim to achieve the same result. What type of therapy is going to be the best choice for you will be dependant on what you think is the best choice, how effective your chosen method is will depend on your ability to make the changes required. Another important consideration is the strength of the therapeutic relationship as well as the therapist's expertise. The relationship between client and therapist will often be essential towards experiencing a positive outcome in therapy, and it is often more important than what type of therapeutic approach is used. If you have a type of therapy in mind start by researching it and find out as much as you possibly can, you then have a better idea if it is what you want to try.

Some common thoughts

How do I get past this? I need to find some answers? How do I cope with this? Things needs to change? Why do I feel worthless right now? I need to talk but find it hard to open up? Can therapy sort out my head? I need to find a new me can therapy help me?

Is therapy any better than

medication?

We live in a world of a quick fix expectation, we are raised to expect that whatever your problem is you can find a pill for this or that, or we find a way that seems to work at the moment, but if continued could lead to more significant problems for you to deal with in the future. when people start drinking alcohol or take drugs to cope with feelings of stress and anxiety, they can find that it does seem to work, in the short term, but in time it often leads on to more severe life-changing, social and economic complications, and acute health problems. Antidepressants are often used to reduce the effects of short term emotional or other psychological problems, and they can have an important role to play in someone's recovery, but they should not be used as a permanent treatment unless you have a major mental illness like bipolar or schizophrenia and your Doctor will advise you in such cases. Pills have their benefits and some problems related to side effects and the long term cost of treatment, for some people prescribed medication did not have any positive or noticeable psychological outcome, but it has also helped others to live a normal life. Always seek medical advice from your Doctor before stopping or changing your medication. The long term use of prescribed drugs used in mental health can in some cases lead to addiction, or it even makes the original symptoms worse, including elevated anxiety levels or weight gain. Medication if it does work, quite often only hides or smooths over the real problem. It can help the person cope or reduce the symptoms but does not generally help to solve the underlying issue; this can mean that the problem will return in week’s months or years from now or the person will need to take more and more pills leading to a lifelong prescription.
Common Questions & Common Issues

Common Issues

These are just a small sample of the complex issues I work with. I do not normally deal with psychosis so I generally cannot help people with schizophrenia or bipolar disorder unless I am working in conjunction with a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist, I do work with people who have bipolar disorder in some circumstances if they have been stable for at least a year. Abuse People suffer from all kinds of abuse including rape and other sexual physical and psychological experiences. Unfortunately this is a common problem that many people face in life and struggle to deal with the after-effects. Anxiety Anxiety issues can be a complex and long term life limiting condition that often has added complications such as low self- esteem. Bereavement Grief is something that everyone will have to deal with in life at some point, it is obviously a difficult emotional experience that can have future complications. Depression Depression is a problem that can often respond to therapeutic intervention. Many people will suffer from depression at sometime in their life. Divorce The end of a relationship is obviously a major life changing event that can leave people struggling to cope with all kinds of practical and emotional situations. Eating disorders A difficult and often long term issue that is expressed through their relationship with food but is actually just a symptom of a deeper issue. Low self-esteem Many people struggle to reach their full potential in life due to feelings of inadequacy about themselves and that can limit their life choices and lower the ability to be self assertive. Relationships Relationships are complex and there is guaranteed to be conflicts, disputes, and some communication problems. Stress How you deal with stress will determine how you cope with life, many people feel as if they are drowning under the constant pressure from work family and other expectations, but it can often become more manageable with a few adjustments to their way of thinking. Sex & sexuality Sex and sexuality is a deeply complex subject that people can find confusing hurtful shameful and embarrassing to talk about. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD is often identified as an after effect of an experience, Symptoms can be difficult to deal with and even become self destructive in some cases.
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