Sex & sexuality

Online support for issues with sex & and sexuality

This online sex therapy service is not just about sex or sexual problems or just about looking at labels and categories such as gay bi-sexual or heterosexual and any other subdivision that someone has created to place people into, this is about people, not only their sexual issues but including their personal needs, thoughts feelings and desires, sex covers a very complex area of human sexual emotional and social interaction prejudiced by religious cultural and social influences.

This is not going to be the same as all the other internet websites talking about sexual issues or offering sex therapy or giving advice on sexuality or sexual problems, there is a lot of content about sex on the internet just do a search on any topic about sex and sexuality, you will find an overwhelming list of websites offering everything from help and support with sexual identity and help solving various sex problems and many more. Some of them give wrong or unfounded advice and some give good guidance, and some are prejudiced by religious or cultural bias.

Medication & Sex

Sometimes it can be a physical or medical problem that is making sex difficult or affecting your libido leading to worry and embarrassment. it is always worth looking at what medication has been prescribed to try and rule it out as the main problem, a lot of medications can lead to sexual dysfunction in both men and women. Emotional issues that are creating problems may need further exploration to uncover the real problems involved and this can take time.

Problems with sex and sexuality

At the simplest physical level sex is an uncomplicated act, every healthy man and woman can have sex, there is nothing complicated about having sexual intercourse, nature has made it simple to reproduce, so what makes sex so complex?

All kinds of sexual acts and sexually orientated desires are going on all the time, all around us, not that you would notice, it’s hardly mentioned or talked about, except in hushed whispers or closely guarded conversations, not something you would generally talk about openly with your parents or workmates, why is something so common and so necessary kept so concealed?

This is where it gets complex; sex is not just about sex when you see it in its social environment it’s about everything but sex, the sexual act has been transformed into a complicated social cultural and religious component, this is where guilt and shame has found its inheritance and continues to work its magic today, the single biggest impact on sex in society in the modern world has been the introduction of birth control allowing women the ability to choose if and when to have children, it also gave them the freedom to enjoy and experiment with sex on their terms.

Therapy for your sexual problems

A sex counselling service normally defines the problems it helps by offering a categorised list of sexual issues it will deal with, often reducing the person to nothing more than a sex problem, it may give details of services like offering help with sex addiction or treating sexual fetishes as if all fetishes are wrong and should be seen as shameful, this therapy service is different; this is about you as a human being not categorised as just a problem without feelings or emotions or labelled as gay straight or bi-sexual and A sexual.

What is the difference between a person who is gay or heterosexual and any other kind of sexuality or sexual orientation such as bi-sexual?

Each will have its own unique issues and difficulties that can affect their personal ability to live life in a beneficial and productive way, all people will also generally have similar needs no matter what sexuality they are, and both gay and bi-sexual people will have loving relationships and experience problems within those personal relationships just like heterosexuals.

Each sexual identity will give rise to unique problems that can be seen as being different from heterosexual life experiences, heterosexual people generally don’t have to deal with as much hate related crime or religious intolerance, they do not have to go through the sometimes-terrifying process of telling family and friends they are not heterosexual.

life changing experience

This will be a life changing experience that can be exceedingly difficult experience, for all kinds of reasons some are not able to take this step and it must always be a personal choice, not forced but chosen.

All people need to feel loved and needed, respected and secure, gay people are just like everyone else, they are human beings trying to live life as best they can with what they have, they suffer from depression and work pressures just like everyone else, they have their own strengths and weaknesses and opinions and beliefs and they are as valuable as any other person no matter what their sexuality.

All people who are in some way different will also have their own unique problems and life changing events, any variance to the heterosexual physical model and expression or behaviour will have an impact on that person’s life in ways that will be distinct to them.

I understand that having a label can be very important to some people, identifying with being gay or transgender can be an important step towards accepting themselves, or feeling that they belong to something bigger, belonging to a group can feel reassuring and supportive, but it can also be limiting and restrictive because we are much more than just any label, we are individuals in your own right so just because you are gay or bisexual or heterosexual you will still be seen as just you for who you are not what you are.

This online sex counselling service is about supporting you to find help by supporting you as a person to understand challenge and change all kinds of issues centred around sex and your sexuality in a safe and non-judgemental environment.